How much applause?

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applause

As a child we all received applauses for even the smallest of act (finger painting, going to the potty etc).  That applause is harder to come by as we get older. We are expected to achieve greater and greater feats with less and less errors.  I believe one of the greatest keys to determine your happiness is not necessarily the money or power you receive in a position (although that is nice) but the applause you get from that work.  That applause doesn’t need to be from strangers, employers, or co-workers but an inner applause that you feel from the success you achieve.  Therefore find your applause meter and happiness is just around the corner.

Stuck in a box

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Stuck in a box

I have learn the art of “friendly  speak”.  This type of speech enables you to be friends with a wide group of people on “friendly terms”.  Yet it leaves feeling like you’re stuck in a box for the topics you want to bring up are just too controversial.  The truth is those topics that you hide are really an important part of the person that you are.

I believe it’s time that we get out of this box. Yes we should have “friendly speak” especially when we meet new people but at the same time we shouldn’t feel afraid or intimidated to state our beliefs even the most controversial. As long as their is respect  from both sides then we can achieve this goal and truly escape living in a box.

The third wheel

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the third wheel

Have you ever felt locked out of conversation? It feels frustrating when your friends are talking and you have nothing to say? It can also feel pretty lonely when you are put in such a situation. How would you deal with it? Here’s a few suggestions below. It would be great to have you interject your own points or comments as well.

Solution                                 Advantage                            Disadvantage

(1) Sneeze                                  Gets people’s attention         People get disgusted after awhile

(2) Bathroom Break               Gives you a break to think    Bathrooms aren’t great topics

(3)Hello, I’m here!                 They will listen                        May make you appear insane

(4) Listen                                 Can learn new facts                Can learn some boring facts

(5) Interject w word from conversation / Can get you in /  You really have to listen

 

Hate the sin love the sinnner – in real terms

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Approximately 25 years ago I was falsely accused of a serious crime. The charges were so outlandish that they were dropped before they even went to a Grand Jury. Yet the pain I bared during this difficult time left me with one emotion, hate. From the moment the false charges were brought till several months after they were dropped my mind was consumed with hate for this individual and how I would seek revenge. I suddenly realized that  this hate consumed me  and hurt my relationship with my family and friends. I decided to make a truce, I would hate what this individual did to me but would not hate this individual. Instead I actually felt sorry for him.  I felt sorry that this  grown man had acted in such despicable manner over something so trivial.  What a poor life he must have been living to act such a way.

This was a lesson that changed my life. Many of my friends who share similar or even opposing political views hate the leaders from the other side. I believe that hate makes it difficult for them to see how others might perceive a situation and therefore be unable to argue forcefully from their point of view. If instead we could see our political opponent as a good person, who just sees the world from a different perspective, we would have  a better chance to convince his/her supporters of the logic we carry. In return we might be able to change policy that effects us all.

It becomes more difficult to love those that have personally wronged us but still hate what they’ve done. It sometimes feels like we are acting in a bipolar way to this individual. Yet to truly hate such an individual not only causes them pain but ourselves and more importantly those that are caught in the middle.

I believe though that there are times when hate is not only important but necessary. If a solider is called into battle he must hate those he is fighting against but when the battle is ended he must some how put that hate in a box, till the next battle.  In fun we can hate the rival sports teams but of course not to the point where we wish permanent injury to those players.

Hate is therefore an emotion that must be utilized  only in extreme circumstances. Where one is defending  not only themselves, family, friends  but also in defense of the values they hold dear. This can occur with defending ones nation from attack or defending their place of worship from similar forces. Therefore hate should be used when all attempts of love have been defeated and only for that time it is needed.

The art of the deceiver

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The deceiver can be found in all different walks of our life. They can be the abusive relationship that promises it will be better next time. The world leader who smiles as he says all they want is peace while they build an offensive stockpile of nuclear or chemical weapons. Or an employee or boss who tells you tomorrow will be different even though tomorrow never seems to come

The deceiver knows more about us then we know about ourselves. He/she understands that we will overlook facts when our emotional needs are met. They understand that appearances (smiles, proper dress etc) can make all the difference. The deceiver understands the role of key words (peace, family, fairness) that can drive someone to their side.  Most importantly the deceiver has the ability to use empathy to manipulate you to their side of view.

We must fight the deceiver whether that deceiver come from our family, our party, or even our faith. The deceiver hurts us and those around us as they use intimidation and fear to stop those around him/her from revealing the truth. Facts and the truth must be continually thrown back at the deceiver but in a way that makes this individual eventually fall.  We must be willing to use their weapons against them whether they be a smiles, proper dress, key words or even the public’s empathy to insure the truth prevails and decency survives.

Black and white might just be right

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I’ve often heard that the world is not black and white yet has many shades but when it comes to work situation I’d rather stay with the basics. At times it appears that when there is a flood from a pipe people will spend hours trying to find out who’s fault. When the person is discovered he/she might spend another few hours making excuses why it’s not their fault.  Finally by the time we come to some conclusion we have drowned in a sea of water.

Instead I believe when there is a problem we should seek an answer immediately before something that just needed a Band-Aid requires surgery. We will have plenty of time to reflect on what caused the incident once we solve the problem. By the way any grammatical mistakes in this piece are do to my dogs who had me up all night.  Dogs are easy to blame because they love you anyway.

You can be classy- Ariana

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They’re both 20.

They have both been child stars.

They’re both making big news with their new music.

But that is where the parallels start  to run out.

Ariana Grande and Miley Cyrus are the most talked about female pop stars of the moment (sorry Britney). But where Cyrus — and Spears before her — went trashy when they said goodbye to their teens, Grande is managing to attract attention without showing off an R-rated side. Or even a PG-13 one.

Last week her debut studio album, “Yours Truly,” shot to number one on the U.S. Billboard charts, making Grande the first female artist to debut at number one since Ke$ha’s “Animal” in 2010, and only the 15th to do so in history. And Grande did it without riding wrecking balls naked or dancing in a bikini with a boa constrictor!

Grande is the star of the new Nickelodeon series “Sam & Cat,” a spin-off from the popular “iCarly,” which she starred on for three years. The Florida native got her showbiz start when she was a teen, making her acting debut in “13” on Broadway in 2008. Over the years, the emerging superstar garnered acclaim as a soloist in various symphonies, and her rendition of “The Star-Spangled Banner” marked the first-ever broadcast of the national anthem for the Florida Panthers

But it has only been in recent months that Grande has exploded nationally, and according to some experts, being a little older when starting her Hollywood journey may be the key to a long and clean career.

“Ariana’s talent speaks for itself, she doesn’t need bad publicity or gimmicks to sell her music,” said acting coach Donnie Klang, co-founder with Matthew LoaPorte of The Loft Studio. “She is the current role model that we use while we are training these up and coming stars.”

Grande has already drawn vocal comparisons to Mariah Carey and Whitney Houston, and is known for being savvy when it comes to social media. In December 2011, she earned her one millionth Twitter follower. Today, she has just under 10 million, in addition to over 7 million Instagram followers and over 5 million Facebook likes.

Another sign the entertainer has her head screwed on straight is the fact that long before catapulting to fame, philanthropy was on her mind. At the age of 10, Grande co-founded the youth singing group Kids Who Care in her home state, which performed for charitable fundraising events, and in 2009 she performed and taught music to children in South Africa as a member of a Broadway in South Africa initiative.

“This proves that Ariana is using her time to make a difference in the world. She’s not club-hopping or Instagramming her extravagant purchases of a Rolex like other famous young stars do,” said Diana Madison, host and founder of Hollyscoop TV.

Grande is also more than just a pretty voice, she’s also a sound engineer and producer. Her sophomore album is already slated for release in February, and perhaps the biggest concern for Grande, who is said to model her style on classy movie greats Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn, is not ripping off her clothes and licking sledgehammers, but burning out.

“First day off in forever,” she tweeted last week on the very day “Yours Truly” hit No. 1 after canceling her promotional appearances due to a  hemorrhaged vocal cord. “Vocal rest and watching movies with my best friend.”

And even though scores of parents are likely hoping Grande doesn’t start messing with foam fingers anytime soon, she has no qualms in carving her own, unconventional path.

“I don’t feel much pressure to fit in. I’ve always just wanted to do my thing,” she told Rolling Stone. “I have really good friends and good family and if it don’t fit in somewhere else, I fit in at home.”

Honest James

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Another example of why you can’t judge a person by their outer cover it’s their heart that counts.

FROM FOX NEWS-

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    Sept. 16, 2013: Glen James, of Boston, left, smiles in the direction of members of the media as Boston Police Commissioner Edward Davis, right, looks on during a news conference at the police headquarters, in Boston. (AP)

 

A homeless man in Boston was honored Monday for flagging down police after he discovered a bag filled with $2,400 in cash and nearly $40,000 in travelers checks, The Boston Globe reported.

Last summer, Glen James, who is in his 50s and lives in a homeless shelter, noticed a young man at the South Bay plaza in Boston leave behind a large bag, the report said. James observed the bag’s contents, and alerted police because “God has always very well looked after me.”

“Even if I were desperate for money, I would not have kept even a penny,” he wrote in a statement due to embarrassment about a speech impediment.

James received a citation from Boston’s police commissioner and there has been a website made, www.gofundme.com/4by2as,  to raise money for James, who said he receives food stamps and panhandles at times because “It’s just nice to have some money in one’s pockets so that as a homeless man I don’t feel absolutely broke all the time.”

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/09/17/homeless-man-in-boston-honored-by-police-for-turning-in-backpack-full-cash/#ixzz2fA0yB6j8

 

Big Brother in the bedroom

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Some of the side effects of Obamacare (see below) next they’ll be asking to put a camera in your bedroom to verify that you’re telling the truth. It’s for your good, right?

 

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Are you sexually active? If so, with one partner, multiple partners or same-sex partners?”

Be ready to answer those questions and more the next time you go to the doctor, whether it’s the dermatologist or the cardiologist and no matter if the questions are unrelated to why you’re seeking medical help. And you can thank the Obama health law.

“This is nasty business,” says New York cardiologist Dr. Adam Budzikowski. He called the sex questions “insensitive, stupid and very intrusive.” He couldn’t think of an occasion when a cardiologist would need such information — but he knows he’ll be pushed to ask for it.

The president’s “reforms” aim to turn doctors into government agents, pressuring them financially to ask questions they consider inappropriate and unnecessary, and to violate their Hippocratic Oath to keep patients’ records confidential.

Embarrassing though it may be, you confide things to a doctor you wouldn’t tell anyone else. But this is entirely different.

Doctors and hospitals who don’t comply with the federal government’s electronic-health-records requirements forgo incentive payments now; starting in 2015, they’ll face financial penalties from Medicare and Medicaid. The Department of Health and Human Services has already paid out over $12.7 billion for these incentives.

Dr. Richard Amerling, a nephrologist and associate professor at Albert Einstein Medical College, explains that your medical record should be “a story created by you and your doctor solely for your treatment and benefit.” But the new requirements are turning it “into an interrogation, and the data will not be confidential.”

Lack of confidentiality is what concerned the New York Civil Liberties Union in a 2012 report. Electronic medical records have enormous benefits, but with one click of a mouse, every piece of information in a patient’s record, including the social history, is transmitted, disclosing too much.

The social-history questions also include whether you’ve ever used drugs, including IV drugs. As the NYCLU cautioned, revealing a patient’s past drug problem, even if it was a decade ago, risks stigma.

On the other end of the political spectrum is the Goldwater Institute, a free-market think tank. It argues that by requiring everyone to have health insurance and then imposing penalties on insurers, doctors and hospitals who don’t use the one-click electronic system, the law is violating Americans’ medical privacy.

The administration is ignoring these protests from privacy advocates. On Jan. 17, HHS announced patients who want to keep something out of their electronic record should pay cash. That’s impractical for most people.

There’s one question they can’t ask: Thanks to the NRA, Section 2716 of the ObamaCare law bars the federal government from compelling doctors and hospitals to ask you if you own a firearm.

But that’s the only question they can’t be told to ask you.

Where are the women’s rights groups that went to the barricades in the 1980s and 1990s to prevent the federal government from accessing a woman’s health records? Hypocritically, they are silent now.

Patients need to defend their own privacy by refusing to answer the intrusive social-history questions. If you need to confide something pertaining to your treatment, ask your doctor about keeping two sets of books so that your secret stays in the office. Doctors take the Hippocratic Oath seriously and won’t be offended.

Are such precautions paranoid? Hardly. WikiLeaker Bradley Manning showed how incompetent the government is at keeping its own secrets; incidents where various agencies accidentally disclose personal data like Social Security numbers are legion. And that’s not to mention the ways in which commercial databases are prone to hacking and/or exploitation.

Be careful about sharing your medical secrets with Uncle Sam.

Betsy McCaughey is the author of “Beating ObamaCare.”

 

 

 

Bullied the positive side

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I was bullied from grammar school till 11th grade in H.S.  It included being picked last on any sports activities to having my books  dumped while walking through the school corridors. These were extremely painful years because I was so insecure that I wouldn’t tell anyone else about the pain I was going through. I felt lonely, insecure and at times felt the world was against me. Yet looking back I realize that without these dreadful experiences of the past I wouldn’t be the type of person I am today (the positive side I mean). Here are just a few ways (below) being bullied can make a person better in the long run.

(1) Empathy- I will always look out for those who are hurt and/or not given the proper respect they deserve as G-D’s gift to the world.

(2) Strength/Determination- I was driven to prove the bullies wrong and become successful in what I achieved no matter what the odds.

(3) Insecurity- I will never be so confident and full of ego that I will just sit back and not seek improvement.