Recently the actions of Richie Incognito of the Miami Dolphins have brought new attention on the acts of bullying. What occurred at the Miami Dolphins shows that this harmful acts can continue well into adulthood but how is someone to fight against these actions. If we are to stop bullying we must understand the different types of people who bully and their motivation. If we can limit the reward they receive from bullying then they will refrain from this hurtful activity.
(1) INCOGNITO BULLY= Hidden Bully. This is a bully that may not realize that they are actually hurting someone and or even bullying them. They believe that it all is just a big joke. SOLUTION = Telling the bully that you are hurt by his/her acts in a language they will accept. EXAMPLE-I’m curious how do you think I should react if (bullying act) happened to you.
(2) REWARD BULLY = This bully actually gains benefits from bullying. Maybe they feel more popular, hipper or higher on the social stratum by bullying an individual. SOLUTION= The punishment must effect their social status. SOLUTION = Ignore them or come up with a response that belittle’s them in front of their friends.
(3) NARCISSISTIC BULLY = This bully feels no remorse for his/her action. SOLUTION = Punishment must be much more severe then any reward they receive from their actions. These individuals may have to suffer physical reactions from those being attacked and/or suspended from activities they enjoy because of their actions.
