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I realized it’s not how much you say but the words you use which will stay in another’s heart especially one in pain.  Here are just a few you should include in almost any conversation. They might appear basic but too many times we reach for a new key when the most obvious one’s are in our own hands. Sometimes the best keys to life give others the power to open up their own doors instead bang against one.

I UNDERSTAND- These two words of empathy open a whole new world of listening even if you weren’t paying as close attention as you should.

THAT’S DIFFICULT- Sharing one’s pain can help them share your own pain and even thoughts on the subject.

I’M SORRY-  This doesn’t have to be a direct connect to your own guilt but connect to someone else’s mind and soul.

I’M HERE- You will  notice the  ‘I’s” are key for they let the other notice that you are still there for them. 

 What do you believe most would give you a standing ovation for?  What is the achievement you believe you are most deserving can be quite different from the world’s perspective. For you can conquer the world but those most closest to you will reflect on how you had an impact on their life 1st.  The big $$, Power and Fame may appear to be the key to your success but the larger impact you have on those closest to you may truly hold your legacy.  A perfect example of this is Rance Howard who had an incredible legacy in the film industry but is best remembered by his son Ron as a great father and friend.  The standing ovation for Rance came less frequent as he aged in time but it appears his  family will stand with his pride way after his passing.

What does every human being “HATE”?  This is a harder question for the obvious answers such as death are not obvious for those who are suffering mental illness or in extreme pain. I though about traffic but sometimes you really don’t want to arrive on time and/or you want to finish up a countdown. Here are a few HATES (below) that I believe are universal I dare you to like them.

NEAR DEATH- Knowing that you are in the final throngs of life must be a hateful feeling. For even if you believe paradise is awaiting you’re still waiting.

BETRAYAL- I can’t comprehend any human being having nothing more then hate in their heart when they first find this is true. They might enjoy the revengeful thoughts but that comes way after the hate.

INSECTS CRAWLING ON YOUR FACE WHILE SLEEPING- Let’s face it some people even love Cockroaches but upon one’s face when sleeping can’t be loved by anyone. 

I spent my time reading the entire Wall Street Journal Weekend Edition but one headline stood out not for what it said but what it didn’t say. The Headline read that the Trump Administration is preparing to stop sending weapons directly to Kurdish Militants battling ISIS in Syria. The key word in the article is “Directly” which gives room for indirectly. For example sending extra weapons to friendly nations such as Iran and Egypt in return for them directly sending them to Kurdish fighters. This way the administration can have Turkey on it’s side and still have the Kurdish fighter cleaning up the ISIS mess.

Some are the kindest to animals except those with only two legs, while other truly care about their business but forget to bring it home therefore we all are pieces to the human kindness puzzle. A loved one came out with this brilliant philosophy when I mentioned how I can be as “great as “he is with….”  and he knew that was only one piece. For it’s impossible to be perfect but if one works harder in perfecting those areas of kindness that we are best at G-D willing others will work on their own areas of expertise and then we will truly be whole.  Even if we don’t hit perfection our trying moves others in our area as well whether it be in kindness, consideration, honesty, charity, empathy, durability, strength etc and then we all will be closer to the mission G-D has on store for us individually and as a whole.

As king of this blog I’ve declared today to be “National Non Sexual Headline Day”  or NNSHD for short.  On this day they’ll be no startling revelations about Celebrities, Politicians, Athletes, Business Leaders who acted in an inappropriate sexual way.  All those who would act or report such doings would have to wait till November 26th or November 24th for such information to come out.  Many might call this a day of “naivete” instead but I call it a day you can actual watch or listen to the news with the entire family skipping the violent headlines … oh well it’s a start.  NNSHD a day we can live with it all year long.

FOOTNOTE- NNSHD, will be competing  with Bias Day, Parfait Day, Shopping Reminder Day and Small Business Saturday (not a popular day on the Jewish Calendar)

I don’t want yes or no but why? How do you conceive of your thoughts and where is it connected to my DNA?  It is not enough for you to scream your opinion but understand what motivates you to be so angry about even this discussion? Why do you feel so uncomfortable with discussing this in more depth or how far will you go before you actual STOP and think “what if”?  Maybe today’s is not that time but maybe tomorrow it will be too late for who knows where that discussion will finally be put to an end.

PLEASE SHARE WITH OTHER PARENTS-

If you are a parent of this world you will eventually realize that your child is from a whole different planet. A planet in which the rules of yesteryear have disappeared into space and new aliens have taken over. Here are some of the spacial differences.

• SHOUTING- In their world shouting is more acceptable then ever even to those who have brought them into this world. You might believe that they will grow out of it but the truth is they only get louder.
• HELLO-   This greeting is passe in many of their planets for the occasional wave or head shake has replaced the spoken word.
• PARENTS-  Fear of causing  parents grief is not high in their order of life goals for once they fly from the nest their destiny is not in your hands. Guilt can still work but it must be enhanced with actual  water from the eye’s.

Once you understand their world it becomes easier to find a planet that suits both visions and you can live in happiness and even peace.

Some of your best writing will occur when you’re emotions are red hot! When the ink appears to stab the page instead of just flow but be careful for you don’t want to end up with unnecessary blood stains.  You should definitely write when the pain inside needs to be released but consider the following points so you’ll never caught in the act.

(1) ALIBI- Never directly name those you are angry at in your writing instead utilize metaphors and  similes. It also is helpful to use plenty of personifications because your dog will never know.

(2) CLEAN UP- Don’t leave your writing around right after the incident even if it is hidden (see point 1) for those with a clever mind are a better detective then one might think.

(3) RELIEVE- Let your writing end with some type of dead silence so you can move on to the rest of your life or next victim.

**Jane Smith** is the one woman who appears to be linked to all the sexual accusations involving Roy Moore, Senator Al Frankin,  Charlie Rose, Harvey Weinstein & Roy Moore. Unfortunately it appears that Ms. Smith has either worked or tried to work for these men above at the wrong time and had unwanted sexual advances made by all them.  This brave woman has held her story back for years because she felt it would only hurt her and her family if she told the “truth”.  “I’ve decided to reveal my story because other woman can not stay in the closet about sexual harassment”. Ms. Smith will appear on a simulcast broadcast of her story on CNN & MSNBC and a book as well as a movie offer have been signed. A new fashion line of Ms. Smith’s clothes will also appear this spring  called “Brave”

FOOTNOTE-  Ms. Smith has been married 3 times and has excused her ex husbands of sexual abuse. She currently resides in a public housing project in NYC but expects to moving shortly. There are collaborating witnesses to her account but it appears she did work her each one of these individuals or applied for work at their office. The lawyer for “Charlie Rose” says she was fired for tardiness and poor performance.