I realized it’s not how much you say but the words you use which will stay in another’s heart especially one in pain. Here are just a few you should include in almost any conversation. They might appear basic but too many times we reach for a new key when the most obvious one’s are in our own hands. Sometimes the best keys to life give others the power to open up their own doors instead bang against one.
I UNDERSTAND- These two words of empathy open a whole new world of listening even if you weren’t paying as close attention as you should.
THAT’S DIFFICULT- Sharing one’s pain can help them share your own pain and even thoughts on the subject.
I’M SORRY- This doesn’t have to be a direct connect to your own guilt but connect to someone else’s mind and soul.
I’M HERE- You will notice the ‘I’s” are key for they let the other notice that you are still there for them.