It bothers me deeply when someone of the faith wears the garb but their soul is cold inside. Basic Judaism believes that rituals must lead a person to be a better person otherwise they lose all relevance. A person could put on Tefillin everyday but if their mind, body and soul is not bound to be kind to all G-D’s creations it’s if they are walking around naked. How we treat others is truly the test of faith especially when times are difficult for us. Therefore every ritual must be done in a way for the individual to understand how it makes them a better person and only done in the way that makes that occur. For G-D seeks us to take care and love each other above taking care of an object no matter how holy it might appear to be.