I had my own J moment!! This was a moment where I took in the incoming as if I had a “force field” that wouldn’t let them in. The remarks were as cruel as could be but my response was calm and calculated. Instead I just asked why say them at all and what is it meant to accomplish? My arms were stretched wide as I took the incoming yet it didn’t sting. My “J Moment” showed M-E that it’s not what is said but how we react to it which decides if true peace is our corner no matter the battle others want us to join .