The first question is “how do you feel”? For, that will basically determine the response to the questions afterwards especially for those who live on the border. If someone is able to reach inside and tell you they are feeling angry, depressed or the negative emotions maybe this should just be a listening tour instead. While if their face shows sunshine well that road trip looks a bit brighter. Therefore start your engine with the 1st question so you don’t waste your gas on a trip that leads to a crash.