I have my defenses up except when I believe we’re at peace. Then without notice, the attack begins even though the excuse for the action is something that occurred in the way to distant past. A feeling/emotion you never fully let go of and, now use as your excuse for the attack. Usually, I can defend myself without making it go nuclear but when attacked from the rear well then anything goes and so does our relationship at least during this war. So let’s be more open and close the door to the past and just then peace will truly prevail.