ONE PERSPECTIVE– I was only trying to do my job but it appeared he wanted me in a whole different position. Jokes are fine but he should have realized that it crossed the line if not with my words then at least my expressions. To ask me to go out for drinks alone when I just met him made it obvious what he really was looking for. He made me feel as if I was a piece of meat that he would suddenly bump into with a hand or look in the wrong place. How can a woman get ahead with their talents when they are judged on other areas not in one’s resume?
DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE- I’m not going to say I didn’t like her and with her expressions I thought it was reciprocal. So I asked her out for a drink what’s the big deal! After that she assumed every touch or glance was meant to “get her” instead of just being friendly. To loosen the ice I tried to joke with her like any other colleague but it appeared every word I said was offensive. She thinks she didn’t get the promotion because of what occurred between us but I honestly believe she needs to be less sensitive if she’s going to really move ahead in this organization.