Pain whether physical or mental is truly very personal at the moment. For as much as you try to explain how it feels to another they can’t absorb this emotion from you. Some emote better then others but even those who appear most sympathetic don’t really have a clue. That is unless you speak to others who were in similar situations and are willing to be honest about their own experiences. Some who have been through it though might put on a mask as if it never occurred in their life or they just put it “beyond them” never wanting to recount the experience. Yet if you’re a believer you know that G-D never leaves you and through it all will help you get through it to a brighter day here, with someone else or at truly a higher plain.