I believe after years of observation and study that I have learned the secrets (see below) to finding a partner in a heterosexual relationship but am not able to test them out since I’m happily married. I therefore ask that if you’re seeking that special person that you test this out and share with the your friends and associates. Maybe the sharing will continue down the line until it reaches my children’s doorstep and if you cover the author up they’ll even follow it as well. PLEASE SEND YOUR FEEDBACK GOOD, BAD OR UGLY
(1) KNOW- You can’t seek the partnership of another if you don’t truly understand yourself. For example what truly makes that heart beat a bit faster in the good and bad for long term or short moments. You are special and those that are meant for you will enjoy your humor, intellect, rowdiness, or deep reflection more then you would ever know just find that 1st.
(2) IMAGE- Once that self discovery is made does that image you wear truly reflect your inner mirror. Would that “Avenge Sevenfold” make someone who likes sweet country look away at that initial impression even if all the other pieces seem to fit or is a rocker more central then the other characteristics you want to portray? What is most important in that image you are presenting?
(3) LOCATION- Sometimes you can meet someone in an elevator but most likely this floor won’t go up so go to places that have your interest in (art gallery,casino, concert, baseball game) mind and even if it doesn’t work out that night at least you’ve enjoyed the entertainment. Further note only go with one friend from the same sex.
(4) SHOOT NOT RELOAD- There is nothing wrong with trying to shoot above “your league” but don’t waste all your time, effort and hopes on that person. If the vibe isn’t there well then it’s down the street or around the corner. Even if you finally become attached to such a person realize you might feel or actually have to look behind the corners to make sure nobody else is moving in. It might also be more work to keep then the joy you initially thought you would have.
(5) MOOD OUT – If for whatever reason you’re not in “the mood” (long day at work, fight with family, time of month etc) make sure you tell the person in advance that today or tonight may not be best and give them a general reason why. If they still want to see you then at least they were warned in advance and use butter knives.
(6) CONVERSE NOT ARGUE- You have to be who you are but you’re more then a political ad or a faith based ministry get to know the individual you’re with before you allow yourself to get into the heated conversation. The deeper conversation can occur in the middle but not the beginning or the goodbye… for the night.
(7) FUN- If you haven’t signed any papers and nothing is bouncing in the oven your still single. Therefore if over 50% of the time with this individual isn’t fun in someway or there is just too much friction it’s time to swim in a new lake or at least take a new dive, of course the painful conversation should occur in advance.
(8) WAIT- Don’t give all the goodies in advance get to know the individual from the inside before they undress you from the outside. The longer the wait the better the wine.
(8) ENJOY THE OCEAN- Truly there are plenty of fish in the sea so take a nibble hear and there before you get trapped in a net.