It is difficult when you see someone continue to suffer do to the decisions they make but trying to change them appears only painful to you. Maybe a few of these suggestions (below) will help with the process.
(1) START POSITIVE- No matter how difficult this might appear if you can find a way to talk about the person’s strength’s before their weaknesses their door to listening and acceptance will be more open.
(2) I INSTEAD OF YOU– By suggesting these are your feelings it makes the individual less defensive about receiving the comments.
(3) QUESTIONS TO PONDER- Instead of expecting an immediate answer give the individual time to think about a response over-time and let them come to the conclusion instead of you thinking about it.
(4) OUT OF BOX- Try to take them away from their position and see it through another’s eyes “Picture this instead”
(5) LISTEN – Make sure you listen not only to the words but their inflection and see what they truly might be saying in a deeper sense.
(6) END W CARE-Make sure you leave the discussion or meeting on a positive note and let them know you will be there for them.
(7) CHANGE BUTTON– Realize that there is no immediate button that will work but over time things might move in the right direction even when you least expect it to occur.