After more then 20 years it still hurts as it is a struggle to hold back tears. Traumatic events never full close they leave a scar that can easily be opened when some event produces a flashback even if it’s just for a moment. Yet over time and with coping mechanisms that include physical activities, counseling and faith they will never bleed as they once did. If you can take that traumatic event and some how allow it do to good for others that are suffering then maybe that’s the closure which will allow that scar to have a beauty mark right in the center.