I was not a big proponent of “labeling” someone with a mental health condition because that person then can use it as a “crouch” to not push themselves farther but for patterns it truly makes senses. This is true for those that treat such individuals but especially for their “loved ones”. Often a loved one is caught in a cycle of confusion of walking on eggshells, people pleasing and conflict avoidance to the point of nausea I should know this has been my mirror for many a year. Yet understanding there is a pattern which honestly can’t be avoided provides some clarity and peace. It also makes sure the suffering is put on the person who truly has to seek the greatest change. This doesn’t give the loved one an open check but at least one that can truly be read.