How is one not only survive but thrive when a loved one has a chronic mental illness? Here is some advise I’ve seen work in my life if only I’d follow it more.
(1) Take Care Of Oneself – It’s easy to get sucked into the life of those that are suffering but you can’t truly help them unless you give your self needed space and escape. Whether it’s a routine at the gym, writing, reading speaking to a therapist or just letting go with friends. Just make sure you take care of your needs as well.
(2) Different Life- Try not to compare your life in anyway with those who are in a different situation. The more you compare the more it can hurt. Do what is best for your individual situation.
(3) Logical Is Not Logical- Don’t try to rationalize with a loved one who is having an episode just try to relate to the pain that their own emotions are putting them through. Emotions are real even if what set them off may not be.
(4) You Will Lose- This is not a debate you can win for those that are suffering can be the greatest lawyers against their own best interests. Yes, state your point but then move on.
(5) Have An Escape- Find a way for your mind and body if need be to escape from an episodic event whether it be in the arts, work, gym or walk
(6) You Are A Projector- Try not to take things to personally especially when their projector is running.
(7) Breathe In- Make an extra effort to breathe in the good times and hold them in your head a bit longer. The difficult times will occur but if you can lesson their impact their effect will be lessoned as well.
(8) Find A Quick Page Turner- Redirect, redirect and did I say redirect. Trust me it will help you get through those difficult illogical moments.
Now to listen to my own advise.