If you want me to walk me in your shoes then let me see your toes in their buff. For unless I understand what experiences led you to feel the way you do as well as your own “chemistry” those shoes just won’t fit. In other words your complete reaction isn’t just based on what was said or occurred but where you walked before and how you’re feet were then. Therefore maybe it’s time you held your toes to the mirror before you start asking others to walk with you.