It’s not the right one it’s just the one which is easiest to grab. This is the “excuse” which you can get away with at least in your own head. You want to latch on to it as searching for the deeper answer might require to much work on your neuron’s and who knows it could point in your own mirror. The problem is the “easy excuse” never really is the right answer which leads you to repeat the mistake over and over again but at least for that moment it’s the safest/fastest way to a sense of security even as the paper is really with your fingerprints.